WARNING: This post contains controversial content that some may find offensive!
“Virginity is over-rated in American culture”, says Angelica French, renowned
expert on all things love because she has been dabbling in it for decades!
In some cultures, premarital sex was ordinary practice in
order to determine the fecund fitness of the virginal vessel. After all,
propagation of the species ensured survival for the greatest number in the
tribe. So kick the tires, take her out for a test drive. If she’s fit,
impregnate her ‘til she drops.
It appears we can, in part, thank the Puritans for putting
the big kibosh on sex for fun. Because, let’s face it, those tribal guys
probably didn’t mind the requisite checking out the goods. (Not saying it was
that much fun for the girls, however.)
Along with that came a lot of other restrictions--modesty (vastly overrated in my opinion);
abstinence except for procreation
(crazy, people’s urges clearly indicate a sex drive beyond procreation or we’d
be like dogs with seasons to be in heat); and, just general elevation of the
female body to untouchable status.
The Catholic Church didn’t help either, so let’s not put it
all on the Puritans. Sexual purity also came down with the whole virgin birth thing that was formally adopted in 649 A.D. That was more than a
few years after everybody involved was long dead! So much for fact-checking!
I took classical Greek in college. For fun. And it was. One
of the things you learn when you study any language is that translations are
tricky. Was something big, huge, gargantuan, or merely large? See how
gradations of meaning can affect how you understand the message?
Well, the Greek word translated as “virgin” was parthenos. Parthenos meant unmarried, not
necessarily virginal. Of course, many of the unmarried were virginal, but . . . you see where
I never understood the big deal about why Mary had to be a virgin. So what? The accomplishments of her son were the important thing,
along with the message for how to live our lives. Why the clutter around how He
was conceived? I just don’t get it.
To this day, virginity is valued by societal
norms, but not necessarily by people. Sexuality is a huge and important part of
the human experience. If some choose to wait, that’s cool. But don’t diss
others who might make a different choice, following their own natural urge to
couple. (Interesting word, that.)
It is our society that has extended childhood so that what
was normal in the past at puberty has now become forbidden for years past
I also wonder, with self-pleasuring and mutual-pleasuring,
if the definition of virgin needs to be updated. Is vaginal penetration
by a penis the ultimate desecration of the virginal state or is any orgasm by