Did you ever notice that “danger” has “anger” in it? What does that say to you? When we’re
talking relationships, chronic anger can be a deal-breaker.
As Romance Righter on Twitter (@RomanceRighter), I
sometimes get questions from Tweeps about relationship issues. I try to answer
them in a practical, commonsense way. Here’s what I have to say about anger and
Anger is a normal human reaction to certain situations. A
little anger, once cleared away, can lead to great make-up sex. Or not. But
anger in itself is not danger. Chronic anger is.
What are the deal-breaker anger signs? From my perspective
as a student of human nature and as one who has read lots and lots about what
makes relationships healthy or unhealthy (dangerous), I have three signs for deal-breaker anger danger. If your relationship has even one of them, please
consider ending the relationship. Run, don’t walk, to the closest exit out of the
dangerous person’s life.
1)If he/she EVER puts hands on you
in anger, even if apologies follow, this signals danger.
2)If he/she in anger ever emotionally targets you to humiliate,
embarrass, or demean, this signals danger.
3)If he/she, while angry, talks
about wanting to hurt you physically, even if it doesn’t happen, this signals danger.
Sometimes chronically angry people try to smooth things
over by giving you presents or assurances or apologies. If this happens
frequently, end the relationship.
Don’t risk association with toxic people. Chronically angry
folks are destructive of their own souls and those around them. Don’t put your
mental or physical health in danger by staying