Showing posts with label Love's Storm. Show all posts
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Thursday, April 18, 2013

P is for Polyamory and Polygamy


     An author friend, Margie Church, and her co-author, K.B. Cutter, just released the second book in their “Razor’s Edge” polyamorous trilogy published by Sizzler Editions. Love’s Storm continues the tale begun in Desire’s Edge. I cannot wait for book three!

     Bryce, Amy, and Raine forge a triad in which each is a partner with the others. What some might call a ménage a trios , the “Razors Edge” trilogy is way beyond that label. Polyamory is the new, hot buzz word in erotic romances.

     Let’s break it down etymologically. Poly- is many. -amory is love. -gamy is marriage. Many loves. Many marriages. Got it?

     Polyamory is not polygamy. In traditional polygamous relationships, one person (typically male) marries multiple partners of the same gender (typically female). The power in the relationship rests with the One, and the others must share the One’s attentions, often unevenly.

     The U.S.’s most famous polygamous town is on the border of Utah and Arizona, Colorado City. State law enforcement officials have disrupted the power structure there due to abuses of women and young men amid charges of underage sexual relationships and forced marriages. Still, polygamy prevails.

     Do not mistake polyamory for an “affair”. Polyamory is an equal-power relationship among all the (typically) multiple mixed-gender partners. However, polyamory isn’t by definition limited to mixed gender relationships. And in a polyamorous situation, attention is shared among the partners equally. This creates a much more complex set of relationship interactions than in the traditional couple mode.

     Whereas polygamists engage in illegal “marriages”, polyamorous participants usually don’t. But they have come to an agreement on the terms and conditions governing the relationships and behaviors allowed.

     Polls tell us Americans generally favor allowing a legal union of same sex couples, as do I. Will allowing polygamy or polyamory legal status be our next acknowledgement of the variety human sexuality can take?

     Where in fact is the legal line? Or should there even be a limit on love?